Absolutely! I screen primarily via real world information. Provider references are helpful, but not necessary, so don’t worry. If you’re new I highly recommend reading through my website entirely so you can really get a feel for me, my expectations of you, and the types of experiences I provide. I can’t wait to meet you!

I completely understand that the term “queer” might be confusing to those who haven’t been exposed to it, the queer community, or the queer movement. But I assure you, I truly enjoy intimacy with people of ALL genders. Your gender has no bearing on my attraction to you, rather my attraction is piqued by kindness, communication, and compassion. (No cap, as the kids say!) If you’d like to learn more about what queerness means to me, I wrote a blog post about it!

I’ve been told that my communication style and online presense can seem a little formal or intimidating. I promise, I’m not nearly as stayed or scary as I may seem! And I’ll tell you a super secret — I get nervous on first dates too. I’ve spent a lot of time in my life overcoming shyness. I have a relaxed demeanor and am adept at helping people feel appreciated. I suggest you take a look at my Expectations page to get an idea of how things will go before, during, and after our time together. Also, check out this handy-dandy “Do’s and Don’ts” list. Maybe consider booking a dinner date or a longer experience to make sure we both have time to get to know each other without rushing.

It’s important to say that compensation is for time and companionship ONLY. So, if I can be frank, I do not like entertaining questions like this and asking them will result in me being very quiet and guarded at best. Being guarded means we are likely to both be ill-at-ease and not have a great time together — and I want to have a great time with you! I provide genuine intimate experiences of different varieties. What happens during those experiences is a matter of what feels right for both of us. As such I do not have a list or a “menu.” I love learning about what lights you up, so please feel free to share your non-explicit likes and dislikes! You will find that as we get to know each other there are numerous things I enjoy experiencing with people.

For friends in Virginia, DC metro, or Raleigh NC I generally book a week or more in advance. I have an active community organizer life and travel for days at a time, so the sooner you request my time, the better. I may occassionally be able to take same day bookings when I’m at home. And more likely to take them when I’m on tour. As always, I will need sufficient time to screen and verify you so please take that into consideration when contacting me.

I generally don’t allow reviews on MOST sites. Please see my Expectations page for details on why. However, I do allow reviews to be left on my Private Delights profile. So if you’d like to get an idea of what an experience with me might be like, please peruse them. 

I get this question a lot, whether directly or indirectly. Not to worry, love! I enjoy a vast array of experiences with my paramours. Kink is not the be all, end all form of intimacy. Most of my suitors seek a deeply connective and restorative experience of some variety or another. My kink life can simply serve as a part of my complex foundation of experiences and perhaps titallating cocktail conversation. It’s not something I require of anyone, nor does it mean anything if that’s not where your interests lie.

I’m afraid not, darling. For safety reasons I only allow folks with lots of experience do that. So unless I can thoroughly vet you and have had the opportunity to see you tie in the public kink realm, it’s not a request I can entertain.

I love tying folks! But let’s get to know each other a bit first. I need to know how we communicate together in order to feel comfortable tying you.

It may sound cheesy, but good communication is my #1 turn on! If you are not adept at it, that’s ok, I understand it takes time and practice. Being willing to communicate well goes a long way. My #2 turn on is showing that you’ve read my website thoroughly and make quick work of sending your information and a deposit.

Thoughtfulness, intention, vulnerability are also big turn ons for me! You’ll find I don’t have a list of physical traits that get me going. I am much more attracted to your personality then your height, age, etc, etc. Want to stand out from the crowd? Drop me a thoughtful, respectful, and thorough email and you’ll be at the top of my list.